Faces of Reading

In those early weeks, being open about how I felt and what I needed made a real difference – it allowed me to show up with confidence. It helped that colleagues in my wider network were hugely supportive too – genuinely excited to hear about my little one and how he’s settled with us.

Working part time can be intense. You have to be laser-focused and well-planned to get everything done, and there’s often limited time for the 'nice stuff' in the flurry of emails and meetings. But it’s worth it – especially knowing I still have a job I love when my son starts school in September, in a workplace that supports the realities of family life.

The HR team was really helpful in going through my options with me, and my manager helped to make sure my responsibilities were split between the other Business Partners while I was on leave. Because of this, I was able to help my wife, Khrystyna, but I also had the opportunity to get to know my son.

What I found is that going to work is the easy part. At home, you have to dress and feed your child, bathe them and read to them, make sure they sleep and take part in activities. And just being there for them is integral. That time is very hard to achieve when you’re working: you come home, de-stress, and do all the basic necessities, but just spending time with your child is when you really bond with them and see what type of person they’re becoming. Thanks to the University’s flexibility, I got that time with Luke.

Read more about family leave at the University of Reading. 

DAS provide support to all students across the university, with conditions from dyslexia to depression to assistance dogs. Collaborative working is a necessity in such a busy department providing multi-faceted care to 3,500 students, and we commonly pool our knowledge and expertise when an unusual query arises.

As a Disability Support Co-ordinator, my most important function is working on the ‘front lines’ – particularly on our reception desk in the Carrington Building. I know from my own experience as a student how much difference it makes when staff are friendly and understanding and I do my best to make our reception desk as welcoming as I can.

It had not gone unnoticed to me when I first interviewed on campus that there were rainbow flags wherever I looked. I joined the Disability and LGBTQAI+ networks immediately upon starting work, and formed tight-knit friendship groups with university colleagues I simply never would have encountered otherwise.

Within an outwardly accepting employer, I have found DAS to be even more reflective of that – although I have rarely been shy about my disability, my queerness, or my three-person relationship I have never felt more accepted for who I am as an employee than at the University of Reading.

It's particularly satisfying to make a custom piece of glassware for researchers and get involved in the design process, which can involve multiple iterations to achieve a successful result.

I've got a very friendly working environment. Diversity and inclusion is something the University wholeheartedly embraces, which is great.

I'm asexual and have been involved in visibility work for AVEN (the Asexual Visibility and Education Network), of which I'm a member. This has involved TV and radio appearances, and contributing to newspaper and magazine articles.

When the University was applying to become a Stonewall Diversity Champion, I went to meetings to raise awareness of the asexual community. This resulted in the Staff and RUSU LGBTQIA+ organisations holding an Asexual Awareness Week, to which I was happy to contribute.

Asexual people are thought to make up about 1% of the population, which means there could be somewhere between 30 and 40 asexual people working at the University, even more in the student population.

I think it's important there's visibility for asexual people, and those who think they may be asexual, in particular, to have someone to talk to who is asexual.